When Things Don’t Go As Planned

I’ve been asked the question several times of in 5 years from now where do you see yourself? Instantly I think to say being rich or having that big house on the hill but it never occurred to me that I should reply “whatever is in HIS will.”

For years I lived a life that I had planned I wanted this and that by this time but life surely didn’t go as I expected. Here I am now at 32 finally piecing things together that I believe will work for the good.

I want to encourage you on this journey of life and inform you that your life isn’t planned out by you but God himself. Where we fall short is planning this fairytale dream but forgetting to include the source.

I’ve had many days I wanted things to go successfully but instead I received the complete opposite. Now anxiety occurs, the hope is now lacked and you begin to focus more on your problem and not the problem solver.

When things fall apart consider it a possibility that life knocked it down on purpose..

It’s so easy to think that what we believe is the best thing for us will have the greatest outcome and moments later the plans go downhill leaving us with a void of disappointment.

You begin to see no way out, your mind is racing and now the faith you once had is turned into doubt which doubt turns into fear. Here you are back at step 1 thinking you were elevating but life just redirected you back into the same position again.

Below are some verses I find helpful:

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Proverbs‬ ‭23‬:‭18‬ ‭

“You will be rewarded for this; your hope will not be disappointed.”

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1 Peter‬ ‭5‬:‭10

“In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation.”



God can change anything and turn any situation around ..

Maybe you’re thinking “I can’t keep living like this anymore.” Well, we all go through moments when we want to quit. But the question is, will quitting turn the situation around? You only need to be patient.

Remember the battle is always fierce at the edge of a breakthrough ..

Stand firm, keep walking, never lose hope!

Eliminate to Elevate

In life we all have our own season. Your season is not mine, neither is my season yours. Have you ever took time to evaluate and realized that some people are not meant to go on that journey with you?

Sometimes letting go is the best thing we can do ..

You have those who secretly prey against you, you know the ones who fake applaud? Those same people you have a gut feeling about are the main people who are preying you fail. They celebrate you when you win but deep down they’re unhappy to watch you succeed.

Once you sort things out and rid the dead weight you’ll begin to see life is not bad after all. The truth is some people we’re just to afraid to let go of but in reality those same people can be the reason our blessings are being delayed.

The majority of people and things that are associated with deadweight are toxic.

Here are a few strong reasons why we should keep away from the company of negative people and their negative energy.

  • Attitude: Negative people affect your attitude in a negative way whether you realize it or not. Negative people never think anything positive and when you want to do something new or big and share the thought with such people, instead of supporting you, they would discourage you that would affect your attitude and your ambitions.
  • Energy drain: The way negative people talk and behave has a tremendous negative impact on you and will suck your energy levels making you less energetic and enthusiastic.
  • Credibility: Hanging out with negative people diminishes your credibility to a great extent because people tend to assume you also to be negative. People judge you depending on the people you associate with.
  • Encouragement: When you want to do something different or big, negative people tend to drag you down. They would rather ridicule you and make you feel terrible.
  • Growth: The most hazardous thing about the negative people is that they will hamper your personal as well as professional growth as they don’t like going out of their comfort zone and influence you too to be the same way. Stepping out of the comfort zone is imperative to do something new and achieving success.

Eliminate the negative and make room for elevation!

I want to encourage you to keep going and do what needs to be done for you. The only way true success will flow is when we’re living in our most happiest moments. You not only have the right to be happy but you are in charge of that happiness and what it looks like.

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭5‬:‭17‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Going In Circles ..

One minute I’m okay next minute my mind begins to race. Just when I think I’ve healed, the memories begin to appear. It’s solely the enemy and yes he’s doing exactly what he’s expected to do. Now I’m off track with anxieties off the roof. This is how life goes, right when you’re doing good, BOOM! There goes destruction.

I begin to lose hope seems as if nothing is really going. I’m watching everyone else around celebrate but what about me? Seems as if my time will never come and I’ll only be able to celebrate the joys of others. I want that happiness I want that joy and to top it off I’m battling the depressions of life.

I often hear the words “Jesus take the wheel” and I instantly think of a car lol but here’s the meaning. Jesus take the wheel over my life, you get it? Steer me into the right direction, Jesus guide me, be my GPS.

I never knew a life of Surrender would bring me comfort and peace until I trusted him with full control of my life.

May I remind you there will come a time where certain situations and plans will be off track all due to things that’s about to shift in your favor. Do not lose hope in the midst of the confusion. Your life will destruct before reconstruction happens.

Now I’m able to see why my life was going in circles to only make a complete designation. In this place there’s Freedom, I’m healed, I feel whole. You as well can have this peace once you give him full authority.

“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”
‭‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭27‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Verses to help get you through the most difficult times..

Feeling alone?

  • “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

Struggling with pride?

  • “But those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Matthew‬ ‭23:12‬ ‭

Feeling angry?

  • “Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper— it only leads to harm.” Psalms‬ ‭37:8

Feeling rejected?

  • “The LORD is on my side; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Psalm 118:6

Feeling overwhelmed?

  • “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” Matthew 6: 25-27

In need of encouragement?

  • Psalm 37:23-24 “The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand.”

Grieving?

  • “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

Praying for financial breakthrough?

  • “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

Struggling with purity?

  • Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.” Psalm 119:37

Feeling abandoned?

  • “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

What does the Bible say about laughter?

  • “A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:13

Feeling broken-hearted?

  • “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” Isaiah 43:18

In need of restoration?

  • “And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” 1 Peter 5:10

In need of inspiration?

  • 2 Corinthians 5:7 “For we live by faith, not by sight.”

In need of hope?

  • Romans 15:13 “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Affirmations for Singles

1. I am created for a purpose.

2. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

3. I am content in singleness.

4. I have hope and a future.

5. I trust God with my singleness.

6. I can do all things which strengthens me.

7. I am worthy; I am enough and loved by God.

8. I am equipped and called to accomplish my God-given assignment.

9. I am the head and not the tail.

10. I will seek first God’s kingdom and righteousness.

11. In my life, God’s glory shall be revealed.

12. In Christ, I am victorious.

13. God’s will for my life will be done.

14. What is meant for me will not pass me by.

15. My future marriage will honor God.

16. I am forgiven.

17. God has set me free.

18. I will not be anxious about my future.

19. God has bestowed peace, patience, and steadfastness onto me.

20. My prayers reach heaven.

Forfeiting Peace Due To Loneliness

There are certain circumstances we can not change in life. Whether it’s betrayal, hurt, bitterness, anger, and for some of us it’s the feeling of loneliness that causes us to say you know what “I Give Up.” I laugh because instantly this is where you give Satan full authority to feel as if he’s taken your victory away.

One thing that triggers me is watching the fairytale stories of how and what our lives should look like and instantly we fall captive into one’s belief. Our minds are then consumed into thinking life should be perfect and we should have this in life and that. You get it? Basically we should have it all together.

So then in this state of mind when we’re not where we think we should be from evaluating the movies, social media, & etc we then lose hope. You get this feeling as if it’ll never happen for you. The next thing is it then triggers your mind into thinking negatively which now affects your peace (your mental state.)

The act of loneliness itself is not a form of desperateness instead I believe it’s protection from the wrongs in life. Here below are some ways I believe we forfeit our peace due to loneliness :

  • We stop praying
  • We stop believing
  • We focus more on the World & not of God
  • We compare our lives
  • We hold bitterness within
  • We become slow to forgive
  • We lose self esteem

Those are just some of the ways we become affected. Now there’s good news to add if one day you step back just to evaluate you and life itself you’ll then realize there’s a list of promises that carries us through when we least expect it. Here below are some ways we can overturn these feelings.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.”

Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.””
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John‬ ‭16:33‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”
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John‬ ‭14:27‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“‘May the Lord bless you and protect you.”
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Numbers‬ ‭6:24‬ ‭NLT‬‬

There are ways to regain our power let’s proclaim our victory! Seek in God to regain your peace. Trust in him and believe that he will take action to form you into who he’s created you to be. So instead of losing our peace due to loneliness, we should now come in to terms that our current situation is not our final destination.

Break free and find you again ❤️

The Procrastinator

pro·cras·ti·na·tion

/prəˌkrastəˈnāSH(ə)n/

  1. the action of delaying or postponing something.

Ever wanted to accomplish something and dreaded to finish? That’s me I’m the big procrastinator. I’m good at starting with no results of finishing. Often times I hear the figure of speech “don’t sleep on yourself” and never took time to value the term as YOU HAVE SO MUCH POTENTIAL you’re holding back.

For instance I began writing my first book in 2017 and guess when I finished? 2017 (just laugh.) This was something I continuously put off and put off for no reason at all. I call procrastinating a lazy sport! Even though many may think procrastinating is laziness they’re totally different.

Here’s my illustration: Let’s just say I want to become an author but not taking the steps to write the book and what’s a book with no words? A blank page full of nothing!

It’s as if you’re aiming for it but doing the bare minimum to achieve. Here I am 5 years later picking off where I started years ago but the good news is I’ve now identified the delay so now it’s solely up to me to take action.

So let me ask you something, what is it that you want to do? What’s stopping you? How can you turn your goal into reality?

Procrastination is the silent dream killer. Listed below are quotes from several authors that I found motivating:

  • “Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.” ~ Napoleon Hill
  • “Stop talking. Start walking.” ~ L.M. Heroux
  • “Begin doing what you want to do now.” ~ Marie Beynon Ray
  • “Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.” ~ Author Unknown
  • “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” ~ Pablo Picasso

I believe we procrastinate because we’re afraid of the outcome however, we’ll never know the outcome until we succeed. Do not be afraid to take that move, that’s right get up and make things happen.

Here are some things I believe help with procrastinating:

  • Start each day with a clear mind and give thanks.
  • Forgive yourself from past mistakes.
  • Be more discipline to make wiser decisions.
  • When your mind says NO! Still get up and GO!
  • Do not be afraid of the outcome.
  • Believe in yourself.
“A year from now you may wish you had started today.” ~ Karen Lamb

Gratitude

Gratitude- the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

“I think gratitude is a big thing. It puts you in a place where you’re humble.” -Andra Day

When was the last time you sat and thought, wow I’m blessed, wow I’m thankful, I have much more than I thought I’d have?

The state of being grateful allows many more blessings to flow naturally. Gratitude turns what we have into more than enough. It turns denial into acceptance, confusion into clarity … it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Gratitude is thankfulness. Did you know the state of being grateful can change your outlook on life? Listed below are some ways to practice gratitude.

How Do I Practice Gratitude?

  • Pray for self & others
  • Be Kind
  • Smile more often.
  • Incorporate acts of kindness in your life each day.
  • Don’t gossip or speak badly about anyone.
  • When you think a negative thought, overturn the situation to see the positive.
  • Do not worry about the past or future.
  • Embrace challenges and turn them into opportunities to grow.
  • Help your friends see the positive side to life.
  • Focus on your strengths.

I challenge you each day to express your thankfulness to others, be positive. The energy you put out, you will definitely get in return. Remember there’s someone with nothing wishing they had that car you hate to drive, that apartment you wish was bigger, or that job you complain about each day.

Instead look at the fact that you have a car to drive, a roof over your head, & a job that produces income to support you financially.

Count your blessings. Pick a time every week to sit down and write about your blessings — reflecting on what went right or what you are grateful for.

Life isn’t guaranteed so how will you want to spend your days? Worrying about the future or being thankful for the now? It’s up to you! You are in control of how to deal with the mixed emotions of life. However, being grateful not only is good for the heart but also helps build stronger relationships and increases self-esteem.

One of my most grateful moments this year ❤️. (Take out pictures, recap great moments)

So what are you grateful for? (Have a seat, close your eyes, smile while breathing in and out.) Meditate for a moment . . . . .

A grateful heart can produce the joys of life, so if you desire true happiness show gratitude in everything you do. -C.Dillard 

Reset 💫

In life one day you can be balanced and well that next day things can be off. Whether it’s spiritually, physically, mentally, or financially sometimes we just become off track and find ourselves questioning life’s outcome. Today I want to share with you and inform you it’s okay you’re human just hit Reset to Refresh!

I wonder what you’re like …

I think of you, I dread the moment to have you here. I wonder what your tone is like or even your complexion. Have I ran across you? Have you passed me by and I’ve not noticed? Or have we been in contact but maybe bad timing?

I wonder do you pray for me? Do you talk to God daily about me? I can’t wait to wake up next to you and smile. Those will certainly be the joyous of moments I’ve waited patiently for.

Some people may not understand but I’ve saved the best parts of me for you. My mind for you to explore, my body for you to keep, and my soul for you to cherish. Those are things I’d rather keep reserved for you.

Each night I lay alone I don’t mind at all because I know that one day laying alone will turn into laying with you. I want to admire you, protect you, pray over you, just be your peace of mind. I want to support you, uplift you, speak words of life over you. All around I want to make you feel amazing, I have faith I’ll receive all those in return.

I ask myself sometimes what’s taking so long? But then I realize good things take time. I can truly see God is taking his time with you.

Whoever you are I pray you read this and smile. One day we’ll run into one another and our hearts will connect. Our hearts will find favor in one another, maybe even race. This will be a feeling we both feel and a moment that’ll last a lifetime.

– A woman patiently waiting on love ❤️